Yeah, I’m still pregnant

I will officially be 42 weeks pregnant on Thursday.  I have an induction scheduled for that morning, and I’m not entirely sure I’m actually going to go through with it.  I’ve had to fight so hard with all the doctors at the office just to make it this far.  I don’t want to give up on my plan to let this baby come when he’s ready.

It blows my mind that even though I’m really healthy, the baby is really healthy and I feel great (all things considered) that they’d still push induction on me.  In fact, they’ve been trying to plant the concept of “induction is normal” in my brain since 39 weeks when they told me I wouldn’t be “allowed” to go past 41 weeks.

I get it.  I’m not a doctor.  But I’m not an idiot either.  I’ve spent this entire pregnancy researching what I want.  Then I spent even more time researching my second choice if things don’t go my way.  And yeah, I’ve got third choices too.  I’m a pretty informed pregnant person.  I know what I want and I’m going to fight for that.

So it already seemed bad enough that their policy applied to everyone, regardless of the patient’s health and personal desires.  But then, last week, I was actually physically violated by one of the doctors.  In what was supposed to be a routine cervical check he performed what is called a membrane strip, or “sweeping the membranes.”  I was not asked if I wanted it.  I was not told that he was doing it.  And he had no plans to tell me he’d done it.  The only reason he did is because the procedure is painful and invasive and I recognized he’d done something more than just a regular exam, so I asked about it.  That’s when I was told what he’d done to me.

I’m not going to whine about being violated, even though that’s what I feel happened to me.  And I still feel incredibly disgusted by it.  I think I always will.  I just I want to get what happened out there.

I want to let women know that they’re allowed to fight for the kind of birth they want.  Be proactive and ask your doctor exactly what they’re going to do to you.  Understand the risks.  Stand up for yourself when it feels like your wishes aren’t being considered.

We shouldn’t be treated like we’re all the same or that we’re ignorant or that we don’t care what happens when we hop up on that exam table naked from the waist down.

Okay, now that I got that out, let’s switch gears.  That’s just too much seriousness for this blog.  Because being pregnant isn’t a complete horror story.  I get to do fun things like eat all the Oreos without feeling guilty and asking for foot rubs that I can’t be denied.  It’s not exactly a bad existence right now.

I even managed to convince Ryan to help me make some “art” for the baby’s room yesterday.  There hasn’t been a lot of decorating going on in there, since we just have to move anyway, so I was pretty excited to do something.  After a trip to Marshall’s and Hobby Lobby, here’s what we came up with:

Not too shabby, considering I have not one crafty bone in my body.  Maybe I should do more crafts when I’m all hopped up on curly fries and pregnancy hormones.
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  1. says

    I’m so appalled that the doctor would do that to you without asking!! I don’t know how you kept your cool.

    That said, I hope he decides to come soon! I have to say good for you for standing up for what you want. I want to avoid induction if at all possible (too many people I know have been induced and ended up with a c-section) and definitely plan on sticking to my guns.

  2. says

    i’m so sorry to hear you’re being treated like that! the pracitice i went to with my daughter had a very hands-off approach. they didn’t like even performin cervical checks (i’m really neurtic and wanted to know if i was dilated so i started asking at 37 weeks, lol). i’m praying things get jump started for you and that your little man is allowed to arrive when he is ready. my guess is that the drs are just getting concerned because of the jump in the baby passing away suddenly the farther one goes past their due date (obviously i’m not dr, but that is what i learned from my own research). can’t wait to read his birth story so soon!!

  3. says

    Wow. I can’t believe the Dr. just stripped your membranes without telling you, since it has a good chance of bringing on labor in 24-48 hours. (and yes, it is uncomfortable!) There are good reasons that Dr’s want to avoid going much over the due date, but it definitely needs to be discussed with you as the patient, since ultimately it is your decision and your body. I just pray for a safe delivery for you both! And soon! I want to see this little booger :) (living vicariously…so miss having an infant!)

  4. says

    Yes. I agree with every last word you wrote. Babies come when they’re READY. Due dates can be off since no one was sitting there notating your cycle and your sexual activity. (Unless that doctor is a helluva lot creepier than you originally thought.) And geez, HE works for YOU. He doesn’t just get to start deciding what he’s gonna do without your full informed consent and approval! I am just blown away. And I hate that pregnancy and childbirth is so medicalized here- almost like the baby you’re growing is an illness that must be taken care of, instead of letting your body do what it was made to do.

    With that said, I am SUPER proud of you for fighting for 42 weeks. You’re a rockstar. I realize that you’re being induced today if homeboy hasn’t made his way out yet, but may I suggest running stairs and having a lot of sex? Worked on Sam. And nothing is funnier than watching a pregnant lady run stairs.

    THINKING OF YOU!!!!!!

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