I don’t really do New Year’s Resolutions. I’m more of the mindset that you don’t need a brand new year to make a resolution. You want to change something? Well, change it. No need to wait until January 1. But this year I will make an exception.
About a week before Christmas a dear friend of mine lost her step-dad to cancer. I didn’t know him well, but his passing still resonated through me. Because I knew what a kind and loving man he was. I knew that he was the kind of father to my friend that she so desperately needed. And I knew his absence in her life was something I couldn’t come close to understanding.
When I went to visit my friend over the holidays we talked a lot about her step-dad, his final days, what a good man he was, and the special bond they shared. But one thing sticks out. And it’s the entire reason for my one and only resolution for 2014. My friend and her step-dad went out on a date every week. Every week for 20 years they put aside everything else and spent quality time with one another. Even when he was in the hospital, their father-daughter dates continued, right until the end. And she told me, “Dads, take your daughters out on dates. Moms, take your sons out on dates. Take your kids out on dates.”
And that’s my resolution. Every week this year I’m taking Wyatt on a date. Just me and him. I don’t care if he won’t remember it. I want to show him now that he’s worth my undivided attention. I want him to learn early that even though life is hectic and schedules are packed, I will always make time for him.
Thank you Terry for being the dad you were to my friend. And thank you for inspiring me to pass that on to my own children. You will be missed.